Helping others where it is most needed

For most of us part of our soul journey is to give assistance and receive assistance from other people.  All of us have something we can share to enrich the life of other another person.  This can be in the form of personal experience, skills of all kinds, character strengths, our labors, our knowledge, leadership, or sometimes all that's needed is loving understanding.  It gives us a sense of purpose and belonging in humanity.  As we are a part of that, so other people are too, and they help us.  The energy and efforts of everyone is not a one-for-one benefit, but multiplied many times.

However we are limited in the time we have in a day.  We only are able to do so much.  So as much as we would like to, you are not able to help everyone.  Many people have a hard time with this.  It is difficult to say no to people.  In many cases people who with regularity prioritize their tasks for the day suddenly find it challenging to decide who is most "deserving" of their time and efforts.  The fact is that it's not a matter of "deserving" but more a matter of will you effectively help that person, and are you the right person for the job?

Let's focus on the emotional help.  When someone approaches you with an issue, are they really wanting your help, or are they looking for a receptacle for their negative energy?  Many times people will state they want your guidance on issues, but in reality they really want to give you a blow by blow description of their negative experience, and really do not want to move forward.  This shows a lack of appreciation of your time.  Pay attention to this.  Often times we are more than willing to tolerate behavior from others that we would never dream of doing with other people.  Check your gut on this.  Is this person being respectful of your boundaries?  Do you feel good after conversing with them that your were able to help them, or do feel drained of your energy?

When you have a later conversation with this person, do they tell you that they employed some of the suggestions you have offered?  If so then they are reachable and open to suggestion.  You have the comfort of knowing that this person respects your opinion and truly is benefiting from your energy, not taking your energy.  If you are truly reaching out and helping that person you will feel energized.  You become a channel for Spirit and you are feeling the energy of the Universe.

Many of us, especially people in the lightworker field, feel uncomfortable saying no to people or maintaining our boundaries.  We want to help everyone as we are compassionate people.  However, we really can't help everyone, it's impossible!  We must say no to some people, so we have the time and resources to spend with those who are receptive.  Trying to save everyone is very ego driven, and an impossibility.  Our emotions and energy can guide us to the people who would be best served.  This is Spirit driven.  By taking our light, and lighting another we light up the world!