Finding Personal Growth Through Transition

"Not in his goals but in his transitions is man great” Ralph Waldo Emerson ~ American Poet, Lecturer and Essayist (1803-1882)

This past weekend I was very honored to participate in an event called "A Day Of Healing" to commemorate the 11th of September at Lake Harriet Spiritual Community in Minneapolis.  It was a day where healers, psychics and many other integrative wellness workers gathered to provide their services pro bono to people in the community who would not be able to afford it.   I had an opportunity first hand to hear some of the stories of people that were going through some very difficult passages of their lives and they were coming to me for answers as to where they were headed with an intuitive reading.

When I work with my clients, my type of reading is not the predictive kind where I declare something will happen in x amount of time.  This kind of reading can be very dis-empowering for many people as they feel they are at the mercies of the Universe and their future is set in stone that an event will occur.  Neither of these ideas are true.  If the expected event is perceived by the client as positive it is still dis-empowering as they may feel they can sip their coffee and put their feet on an ottoman and it's "just going to happen".  Everything in this life that is worth having requires some footwork from the participant.  You co-create with the Universe, not sit idly by.

The kind of reading I do is a what I sometimes call a "soul snapshot".  I look at what is happening in their lives today, what brought them there, and where things are headed given how things are today.  Life coaching plays a large part as I offer suggestions on actions the client can do in order to help them heal themselves which more likely puts them towards a favorable outcome with the events in their lives.  That way the client is much more in the driver seat, which is the way it should be.

The clients I saw that day were going through varying degrees of difficulties in their lives.  The subjects of their difficulties were varied as well including financial, health, relationships and familial challenges.  The common thread I saw is that the reason things have become difficult is that there is a personal growth experience that needs to happen.  My tarot cards reflected this reality with each reading, and I know from personal experience that every time I had challenges in my own life was that there was something in my own growth I needed to pay attention to.

When things in our life are going "swimmingly" there is little motivation to implement change in our lives.  After all it's like the old saying "If it ain't broke, don't fix it!"  When problems arise we don't like it and wish to get away from it.  There are two ways we can do that.  One is by avoidance.  Avoidance can manifest through ignoring the issue, pursuing addictions of all kinds (including supposed "healthy addictions" such as working, physical activity and socializing which I will address with another posting), or becoming despondent and depressed.  The other way is to address that pain, and honor it by looking on a higher level to see what needs to be addressed, and to start the healing process through a shift in attitude.  When we shift our attitude and outlook, actions need to follow in order to move forward.

In the mean time the period of change or transition is not pretty.  It's not meant to be.  If you ever have seen a remodeling of a home in the middle of the process, generally it looks worse than before the work ever began!  That is the way we feel when we are in the middle of our growth.  We wish things were like they were before we were in the transitory phase.  Even if things were dysfunctional, at least there was comfort and familiarity in that dysfunction.  When you are in transition period, likewise you are being remodeled.  Sometimes that involves knocking out foundation that has been around for many years (sometimes since childhood) which is very disruptive to our livelihood.   When that remodeling will be completed is on God's time, but you have a large part in that working with Source is about co-creating.  Depending on how you involve yourself you can find yourself with a beautiful new structure or a half-built mess.  It's up to you!

Duncan Metzger is an intuitive medium, life coach, and chakra healer.  He is a co-owner of The Healing Loft in Minneapolis.  http://www.thehealingloftmpls.com

He also known as Northern Lightworker and his personal website is http://www.northernlightworker.com