Taking time for self-care

If you aren't good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you'll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't even giving to yourself.

Barbara De Angelis (American researcher on relationships and personal growth)

I've always been a person who supports the notion to practice what you preach.  Unfortunately I have discovered that I have been doing much more preaching than practicing.  I spend many hours with clients talking about the joys of taking time for yourself to love yourself and heal.  I have done hours of chakra healing and have been honored with assisting clients to heal themselves in some miraculous ways.  However how many hours have I taken for my own healing?

I make up the usual excuses.  I don't have time or resources.  It's not that important, someday I will get to caring for myself but right now that doesn't work for me.  Nonsense!  I can't be an effective healer for others if I don't take time for my own healing.  Any negatived energy I am carrying from my own life affects my clients.  Fortunately I belong to healer group where we do take time to heal each other at least once a week, but intuitively I am driven to seek out more.  If I feel that, then I need to follow my instincts.  This is another thing that I "preach".

A large part of doing healing work is tapping into that universal love that surrounds us all.  A healer (and we are ALL healers to one degree or another) channels this love when assisting others.  However, if you are not experiencing that love yourself, you are blocking that flow.  This throws your own life off kilter and makes it more difficult to be of use to other people.  By getting your own ducks in a row first, you can help others with their ducks.

So ask yourself that question, are you taking the time to care for yourself?


Duncan Metzger is an intuitive medium, soul coach, and chakra healer.  He is a co-owner of The Healing Loft in Minneapolis.  http://www.thehealingloftmpls.com

He also known as Northern Lightworker and his personal website is http://www.northernlightworker.com