The true triumph of reason is that it enables us to get along with those who do not possess it. Voltaire - French Philosopher and Writer (1694 - 1778)In any work environment it's a grand social experiment. You are in close proximity with other people that you didn't choose to be with for long stretches of time over the week. Sometimes you spend more time with these people than your own family. You most likely try to spend the most time with people you are most drawn to when you socialize at work, but many times you have engage with people that really fray your nerves because it's required as a course of doing business. If it's your boss, well it can be really challenging as your fight or flight response wants to kick in and guess what? It might be a career detrimental move if you chose either of those options, (Well the flight might be an option, just don't run screaming out the door, follow some protocol please!)
You do have other options however. You can't control them as a person, but you can help change a difficult situation by channeling positive energy into the situation. Where you start this work is on yourself. You need to bring your vibration higher so that you may more effectively deal with the situation and not become mired in the negativity. Take a candid look at yourself and ask yourself how you are contributing to the conflict or negative situation? Most people wish to shift the blame entirely on the other party, but that is never true. If you have difficulty seeing this, one thing I recommend to my clients is to ask yourself this question when you are in a deep meditative state when you put aside your ego and are much more aligned with your higher self. The answer to questions like this will come with practice. Once you take ownership of your side of the street, you are taking back your power. You are no longer a victim to the other person being the "bad guy".
Now imagine how you would like to see your working relationship with this person. When you imagine this, make it as real as possible in your mind. How would you like to see yourself acting and feeling when dealing with this other individual? When you put your focus on how you would like things to be instead of how "awful" they currently are, your energy shifts and not only will you act differently around this person, but you actually send out much more positive energy. The other person will feel the difference as we are all inherently intuitive on some level. You change your side of the equation and inevitably the relationship will shift. The person may not like the change as many people dislike or are afraid of change. It may feel like it worsens the situation before it gets better. If you persist in doing this however things will shift to their highest good. The highest good is not necessarily that everything goes your direction with this other person, but what works out to be the best balance for both parties or the situation as a whole.
Another exercise I suggest is that when you know you are going to have a difficult meeting or confrontation with a coworker or boss is to prepare for it ahead of time. Put yourself in a meditative state perhaps the night before and imagine that other person sitting before you. Imagine each other bathed in the white light of Spirit as you converse. Always remember that even the most difficult person is still as much a child of God as you are. Imagine what you would like to tell them in your side of things. Now imagine what they would like to say to you. Is there a reasonable compromise between both sides? Put that intention out there. Don't forget to ask Spirit to bring in the highest good. Two things occur when you do this. One when you meet with that person you will feel much less afraid or antagonistic and you will feel the wind of Spirit at your back. The other thing is that souls do communicate with each other outside of the physical 3D world. You literally are reaching out to other person in Universal consciousness and putting your disagreement into a higher light! When you do meet will you get everything you want? No, but things will go much smoother and it won't be the nightmare your fearful mind can create about it. I've used this techniques in my own dealings and it's amazing how it works!
Duncan Metzger is an intuitive medium, energy healer, life coach and writer. His website is http://www.northernlightworker.com. He can be reached at Duncan@northernlightworker.com
He also a co-owner of The Healing Loft in Minneapolis, MN
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